egg, chicken, pie

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!! :)




issues

On a sunny day, we met up again. Two friends who barely said a word to each other for almost a year. Awkward gestures, unsure what to do.


This could be a closure. Or a new shape of friendship. A kiss on the cheek.

"I personally don't believe in global warming. It's just a political twist of powerful countries not wanting developing countries, like Indonesia, emerge as new power in global industries. The world has its cycle and its own mechanism to make itself sustainable."

Always a little discussion. Now over pancakes.

"Well, politic aside. What's wrong with recycling and trying to make less and less solid waste disposal? What's wrong with planting more trees or building more environmental friendly homes? It doesn't matter whether global warming is really exist or not, living green doesn't hurt anyone."

"Poorer countries will always be dependent to richer countries. How could they manage to accelerate their economy if their industries and manufactures continue being held back by the reason of global warming? Those superpower countries only use global warming issue to secure their positions in the food chain."

"Cleaner technology will indeed improve the living quality of society. Reducing raw material, recycling product into its raw material will help. Reusing what you have at home instead of buying the new one is not only helping the environment, but also your wallet, and it prevents any more unnecessary disposal."

"Clean technology is expensive. Raw materials are usually cheaper than the recycled ones, clean technology is not exactly congruous to be implemented in developing countries. Tax cut or incentive for industries that use clean technology, they couldn't do that."

"That's the use of research, to discover new possible, cheaper, more environmental friendly both processes and materials. People need to work together and stop pointing at one another. We could start living green at home. People that live near industrial area could protest if those industrial activities interfere their healths. Government should make a strict policy about emissions and litters that could be harmful to water and soil."

"That could be done, again, in already are industrial countries. There's almost no textile plants in US. They move them to Vietnam, Cambodia, Indonesia because that kind of industry produce a lot of waste."

"And they buy it back to United States. Making coutures and expensive clothes..."

"... and sell it to people around the world, including Vietnam, Cambodia, Indonesia."

"But that's the purpose of industry. You add some value to raw materials, sell them and collect much more money than the producers of those raw materials do. I honestly don't see the bad in capitalism. You want to win big, you have to bet big."

"Developed countries have two faces..."

"We all do."

"Exactly. Raising up this global warming issue, making this sound important and urgent. While at the same time they don't want to sacrifice anything. They push developing countries into taking responsibilities of what developed countries have done. All the data about earth warming up, is only a bunch of curves of what's been going on in the past... let's say, 50 years, 100 years. Earth exists much longer than that. Its warming up and cooling down, it's all part of the cycle."

"If there's no global warming issue people won't stop using cheap technology that will intoxicate their own bodies. People will never stop dispose unnecessary wastes."

"Global warming issue ties down poorer countries and prevents their economic independence. Now is the mankind prosperity versus paranoid hypothesis. And you haven't finished your food."

"I have. I feel full already."

"You only ate a half of it."

"But I can't eat anymore. Or else I'm gonna be sick of too much carb."

"Why... I'm always the one to finish your meal."

Kafka said stories don't have to state morals. Sometimes stories are just about the beauty of details and well written lines.

Talks don't have to have conclusions. The beauty of it is just when you're there, with persons you care about, talking and sipping orange juice.

Oprah's favorite things


You know Oprah's most famous quote is: "Everybody gets the car!!" I imagine people went to her show every week, hoping she'd give away cars on the very episode they're in. But even though it's not car she'd given away, Oprah's Favorite Things episodes are always fun to watch.

Like in 2007, each audience got back home with camcorder, luxurious watch, refrigerator, and plenty other things. She didn't have the usual Oprah's Favorite things on 2008 and 2009 due to the economic recession in the US (I bet any company would do multiple thinking before giving up hundreds of free products, even for THE Oprah).


Yet in her very last Oprah Show (she won't be doing this show anymore next year), we expect nothing but the best. Luckily, so did she. That's why in this season she had 2 episode of Oprah's Favorite Thing. Among the list: 2012 Volkswagen Beetle. Yes, baby, everybody gets the car!!

Maybe economic condition in the US gets better. Maybe Oprah's tired of giving away crappy things like downloadable CDs. Though, of course, as long as it's free and coming from Oprah, it's no crappy at all. This last two episodes of Oprah's Favorite Things (or Gifts) are extraordinaire.

Here's the complete list, as reported on TVSquad.

Limited-Edition 25th Anniversary Oprah watch by Philip Stein ($2475.00)
Nikon camera ($699.95)
Ralph Lauren Oprah Cashmere Sweater and Throw ($1093.00)
Judith Ripka earrings ($525.00)
Tory Burch tote ($250.00)
Andre Walker hair products ($65.00)
Lafco candles ($990.00)
Breville Panini Press ($99.95)
Kyocera knife set ($74.95)
Beecher's mac & cheese ($29.00)
Baker's Edge brownie/lasagna pan ($89.40)
'A Course in Weight Loss' by Marieanne Williamson and 'Decode' by Jay-Z ($59.95)

Netflix membership (5 years)
Kiva/Groupon gift card ($100.00)
Reva Ballerina shoes ($195.00)
Elfa closet system ($1000.00)
Oprah final season t-shirt ($35.00)
Lululemon pants ($98.00)
Black-Eyed Peas CD ((17.98)
Nike shoes (four pair: $340.00)
Apple iPad with Scrabble app ($500.00)
UGG boots ($175.00)
Sophia Satchel by Coach ($398.00)
Magaschoni tunic and leggings ($558.00)

Hope in a Jar by Philosophy ($38.00 and up)
Nordstrom lingerie ($500.00)
Herb Savor by Prepara ($29.95)
Centerville chicken pie ($20.00)
Garrett's Limited Edition Favorite Things tin ($135.00)
Le Creuset cookware ($599.00)
Miraclebody jeans ($110.00)
Sophie jewelry box ($179.00)
Jessica Leigh diamond earrings ($1900.00)
DonorsChoose.org gift card ($100.00)

Williams-Sonoma mini croissants ($39.95)
Talbott Teas ($150.00)
'The Book of Awakening' by Mark Nepo ($18.95)
'Illuminations' by Josh Groban ($12.99)
'Let It Be Me' by Johnny Mathis ($12.00)

Sony Bravia 3D TV and Blu-ray player ($3600.00)
2012 Volkswagen Beetle (it won't be announced until May 2011 but Oprah got a sneak peek)


prodigy

I've been sick for 3 days now, high fever followed by feels-like-never-ending-stomach-cramps. The genius Aji told me I probably caught 'masuk angin'. But yesterday night the pain was excruciating that my aunt finally took me to an internist.

And she said I caught bronchitis.

I don't really understand the connections between lungs and bilge, but long story short, doctor order, I have to put on total rest for the rest of the week. Meaning: no class, no jalan-jalan, no exam. She said I was under a lot of stress lately, which is weird, I never feel like I was.

Anyway, so today I spent the whole afternoon blog walking. I'm always kind of curious with the blog of Tavi Gevinson. I mean, this 14-year-old fashion blogger had shoots for TeenVogue Magazine last year. And, as reported by NY Magazine, had turned down request to appear on Oprah and The Tonight Show. Man.., this chick gets the guts.

Almost as gutty as Anna Wintour, who ordered Oprah to lose 20 lbs before The Queen of American Talk Show could put her face on the cover of Vogue.



Style Rookie, that's Tavi's blog, may not be entirely different from any other fashion blogs. But the fact that a 14-year-old girl is writing these articles: Whoaaa.. I don't remember what I wrote when I was her age, but I'm pretty sure it's not something I could be proud of.

She wrote about Briney Spears' cover shoot for Japanese magazine, Pop. Adding some fine piece of her mind about lolita fetishes, she mentioned about how Spears was sold under pretense of virginal yet sexy school girl. She also compared the princess with Courtney Love, who (as Tavi said it) popularized the trend Kinderwhore.

I think I'm a fan.


This is Tavi's response to the possibility of people get bored of her after some years, when she enters adulthood, as reported by NY Magazine.

“I guess that’s sort of a worry of mine,” she said. “That I won’t be relevant anymore, and then I just won’t be able to do things like go to Fashion Week.” She went on, “If I lost all my readers tomorrow, I would still blog, just because it’s a place for me to get my thoughts down. As I get older, no one will be able to do the ‘Can you believe it? This kid’s thirteen!’ thing. That’s fine. I’d rather get attention for any credibility I have, and if I don’t get attention at all maybe that will tell me I never had any credibility. In which case I’ll just watch the live streams. The main thing is the clothes."

dandelion




Dandelion goes from south to north, every winter day in the middle of the year. Tells you stories about lovers' longing and persistent devotees. How people met and how they said goodbye. Dandelion flies past your chest, digging old emotions and blurry remembrance.




Wood engulfed by fire, in one burning summer day. And he saw she never cared. And she never asked. Dandelion blows with monsoon, leaving behind the cold and into the warmth. Taking away silent plea and unspoken affection.

Words that he could not find, things that she failed to understand. Distant and cruel. Come with nothing, leave with nothing. Dandelion fades as the result of frictions. Closure is the time passing. Mending your heart and guide it open. Until next time, Dandelion goes from north to south.






merrily jolly

Found this piece from watching Nodame Cantabile. I especially love the beginning and ending of the first movement. Reminds of me of Christmas and Santa's sleigh and toy land and joy ride.

Ah, so many talented people in this world. I'm feeling envious...

Ravel - Piano Concerto In G Major (1st movement)

Yundi Li , Piano; Seij - Ravel: Piano Concerto in G maj .mp3
Found at bee mp3 search engine



Joseph-Maurice Ravel, a French composer and pianist. Born on March 17, 1875 in Ciboure. His works including Miroirs and the famous one-movement orchestral piece, Bolero.

Piano Concerto In G Major is Ravel's first and only piano concerto. This piece consist of three movements: Allegramente, Adagio assai and Presto, following the traditional pattern of fast-slow-fast. Influenced heavily by jazz, which was very popular back then in US as well as in Paris.
"The G-major Concerto took two years of work, you know. The opening theme came to me on a train between Oxford and London. But the initial idea is nothing. The work of chiseling then began. We’ve gone past the days when the composer was thought of as being struck by inspiration, feverishly scribbling down his thoughts on a scrap of paper. Writing music is seventy-five percent an intellectual activity."
(Maurice Ravel)

before Dorothy dropped in


So much happened before Dorothy dropped in to Oz.

That is the tag line of the Broadway's musical, Wicked. First performed in 2003, this show was a huge success. Soaring the name of Idina Menzel and Kristin Chenoweth, who played The Wicked Witch of The West, Elphaba and Glinda The Good.

This musical is actually based on a novel by Gregory Maguire under the same title. While Broadway focused on Elphaba and Glinda's friendship and how Elphaba became the Wicked, Maguire wrote a biography-alike of the witch, starting from the day she was born.



Elphaba or Elphie or Fabala or Fae was born with father a minister of unionist (more or less like a modern day reverend) and mother a grand daughter of Descended Eminent Thropp, ruler of the Munchkinland. She was born green from head to toe and couldn't get near water. Her sister, Nessarose was a beautiful religious armless girl. While his brother, well let's just say he did not partake much of the story.

Elphaba met Glinda, or Galinda at the time, when she was schooling at Shiz. Under the order of Headmistress Madame Morrible, they were forced to become roommates. They didn't get along, of course. Galinda, a social climber, queen of popularity. While Elphaba was an awkward green living thing.

But perhaps it was Elphaba's idealism of rightness. Perhaps it was Glinda's clear minded. But after series of tragedies, including the death of an Animal professor, Dillamond, and the down of Glinda's caretaker, Ama Clutch, they gradually became best friends.

The girls were the last generation of Oz that had some lectures taught by Animals. These Animals (with capital A) were almost like mankind, except that they looked like animals. During the reign of Wizard of Oz, they were banished from society, forced to be living in country side, along with ordinary animals.

After the funeral of Ama Clutch, both Elphaba and Glinda seek for audience with the Wizard of Oz. Elphaba suspected the death of both the Animal and Ama was linked to Dillamond's hypothesis of the substantial alikeness between human and Animal. They tried to convince the Wizard about Dillamond's work and thus restore the rights of Animals.

But the Wizard wasn't amused. He insisted that evicting Animals from mankind's community was the proper way of living. Elphaba was beyond mad. She vowed to bring the Wizard's down. She then decided not to go back to Shiz with Glinda and stayed in Emerald City of Oz.

Living in disguise, Elphaba always wore her ridiculous cone hat, black gown, and a shawl around her neck to hide her immediately-would-be-recognized green skin. From then on, her destiny as the Wicked Witch of The West was sealed.

The essential difference of musical Wicked and book Wicked was that in the novel, Elphaba is never much of a witch. While Madame Morrible did foresee the three of them (Elphaba, Glinda and Nessarose) to be living with sorceries, Elphaba refused to even learn.

Another difference was musical Wicked seemed to be allocated for general audience, while the book is at least rated PG. From the blur of who's actually fathering Elphaba and Nessarose to Elphaba's own affair with once-classmate-now-married-man, Fiyero.

This affair was also the one to lead Elphaba into make a home out of a Vinikus castle in Kiamo Ko, where she waited for Dorothy to kill her.

It's a series of unfortunate events, what happened to Elphaba. She, of course, had never asked to be born green. As green as sin, some may say. She did not know a thing about sorcery but because of her look and her given magical broomstick, she took the name. Her sister Nessarose was a witch, ruled as a tyrant thus Elphaba's associated with cruelty. She might scare the hell out of Dorothy, even more of the Lion, but all she wanted were the shoes Dorothy wears.

She wouldn't have guessed it was her death people were celebrating so merrily.

So much happen before Dorothy dropped in to Oz. So much about the Wicked Witch of The West we have yet to understand.



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coffee civet

I never much a coffee lover, though I drink it regularly. I don't know the difference between Sumatra or Java or robusta or anything. The only thing I know is that Java Chip Frappucino uses Javan coffee.

So I was thrilled when a friend gave me this famous coffee, Kopi Luwak, from his vacation to Bali. Night after nights the coffee powder remained unconsumed because I wasn't sure how to make a drink out of it. It was about to change this evening.

After mixing it with hot water (yeah, right genius) the coffee's supposed to be ready. I didn't put sugar in it because the packaging says the coffee is better served without sugar. But it's bittttteeerrr..! My.. I spent couple of minutes thinking what I did wrong. Isn't this coffee supposed to taste heavenly? I mean, hello? Price tag??

Finally I gave up. To hell with original taste, sugar's going in. And then... it tasted really good. Seriously. I googled to find some people says Kopi Luwak is almost like a syrup and it tastes 'clean'. It is and does.

Kopi Luwak is probably the most interesting coffee and especially rare because this coffee is actually made from the beans of coffee cherries which come out from civet's other end after they've been eaten. Gross. But enticing.




According to great-grandfather Wikipedia, civet cats eat the cherries from the freshly pulp. In the stomach, enzymatic reaction takes place. Using proteolytic enzyme, the reaction makes shorter peptides and more free amino acid. Then the beans are defecated but still keeping their shape.

Kopi Luwak is also known as the most expensive coffee beans in the world. The civets could only eats certain amount of cherries, then the very morning the coffee farmers have to search for their 'poops' and wash it clean thoroughly.

I remember last semester I took this class, Food Industry. The lecturer once said his opinion about optimizing production of Kopi Luwak. He opted instead of going traditional and depend production on the civets, we could use research on the proper condition of civet's stomach in which the enzymatic reaction of coffee cherries takes place. By knowing the exact enzyme used and temperature of fermentation, we could produce Kopi Luwak without the civets. It also would cut the time and cost and thus multiplying production.

I don't know if this would work. Because for me, the 'magic' of Kopi Luwak lies on the fact that it's actually come out as undigested product of a living civet. While maybe high-tech Kopi Luwak tastes the same as traditional Kopi Luwak, it's lost the romanticism.

Then again, these cute little civets would lose their jobs.


cerita dari Ruang Tengah

I never thought I could be crying for Iblis. While I may not agree about his choice of song (come on, really? Lenka? Dude!), but this writing by Fahd Djibran really nailed it.



Curhat Setan 2: Just Enjoy The Show!


Satu malam setelah Lebaran, tiba-tiba Tuan Setan datang lagi. Lama sekali kami tak bertemu. Tiba-tiba dia muncul dan membuatku kaget setengah mampus, dia jadi sangat gemuk dan terlihat menyeramkan. Matanya bergerak-gerak, seperti biasa. Senyumnya lebar, dan seperti pada pertemuan-pertemuan sebelumnya, dia mulai menundukkan badannya, memberikan semacam salam penghormatan.

“Hai, lama tak berjumpa!” katanya tiba-tiba, suara khasnya menciutkan keberanianku. Ini kebiasaan yang buruk, kataku dalam hati, menyapa dengan sebuah ‘ledakan’! Lalu ia tersenyum aneh, memperlihatkan seluruh gigi-giginya, “Eit, kenapa kamu jadi ketakutan begitu melihatku, Fahd? Haha, seperti pertama kali saja!” katanya.

Aku beringsut, langkahku surut. “Yang benar saja, muncul dengan tubuh segemuk ini siapa yang nggak kaget!?” kataku. Aku memang agak kesal.

“Hmmm… Apakah aku seseram itu? Sepertinya kamu hanya termakan imajinasimu sendiri tentang aku. Bangsamu memang sialan, seenaknya membuat gambaran menyeramkan tentang bangsaku. Ini keterlaluan! Kalian membuat bangsa kami jadi heran mengapa setan-setan yang kalian buat di kepala kalian sendiri jauh lebih setan dan menyeramkan daripada kenyataannya?”

Ia nampak agak marah, lalu melanjutkan, “Sudahlah, lupakan penampilanku. Tak semua yang kau lihat dengan matamu menunjukkan kenyataannya. Lepasakan pikiran-pikiran buruk dan kecurigaan-kecurigaan, setidaknya untuk sekarang ini… Kau tidak tahu caranya menyambut teman lama? Aku ingin bersenang-senang!”

Lalu ia tertawa dengan suara khasnya. Aku lebih senang menyebutnya ‘meledak’. Mendengar suaranya, kadang-kadang aku berpikir, kenapa aku harus berteman dengan makhluk ini? Meskipun kadang-kadang ia baik, ia tetap menyeramkan!

“Mau menyanyi bersama?” katanya, ia mulai menyadari bahwa aku sedang tidak fokus dan tak cukup senang menyambut kedatangannya. “Ayolah, sambutlah aku sebagai teman… Ikutlah merayakan kebebasanku!”

“Kebebasan?” kataku.

“Ya, setelah sebulan dipenjara!” ia tertawa lepas.

Lalu tiba-tiba sebuah piano besar muncul di hadapannya, dan ia mulai memainkan sebuah lagu.

“Tak usah ragu begitu,” katanya, “ikuti saja iramanya, lalu biarkan seluruh dirimu mengaliri hentakannya—terutama hatimu… Dengarkanlah musiknya, Kawan. Enak bukan?”

Aku mulai mengikuti musiknya. Enak juga, seperti biasa. Meski menyeramkan, ia memang musisi yang handal.

Aku tersenyum. Ia tersenyum.

“Hey, lihat! Kau mulai menari, ayo teruslah begitu, nikmati lagunya!” ia tampak senang melihatku mulai menikmati permaianan pianonya, “Kali ini The Show dari Lenka!” sambungnya.

Dan ia mulai menyanyi.

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I don't know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

“Lagu ini benar-benar mengingatkanku pada kisahku sendiri. Saat aku merasa tiba-tiba harus berada dalam situasi yang tak kuinginkan. Tiba-tiba Tuhan ingin menciptakan manusia dan menjadikannya pemimpin di muka bumi, lalu aku harus bersujud di hadapannya? Yang benar saja! Ini penghinaan terhadap profesi setan! Jelas aku tidak bisa menerimanya, ini masalah besar… Jelas selama ini akulah anak emas Tuhan, mengapa Ia menginginkan yang lain? Apa yang kurang dari aku?

“Tapi, apalah kuasaku di hadapan medan pertunjukan Tuhan? Aku hanyalah bidak kecil di hadapan kebesaran Sang Maha Dalang! I’m just a little bit caught in the middle! Bahkan “ada”-nya diriku juga tak pernah kukehendaki, Dialah yang menginginkan semuanya. Aku hanyalah bagian dari sistem agung kemahatiba-tibaan-Nya; tiba-tiba aku tercipta, tiba-tiba aku memiliki peran, tiba-tiba aku memiliki hidup, tiba-tiba aku harus menjadi musuh semua sub-sistem kemahatiba-tibaan-Nya, dan segala ketiba-tibaan lainnya.

“Ya, tiba-tiba aku terperangkap di tengah-tengah sebuah sistem agung yang aku sendiri tak mengerti… Sedangkan hidup serupa labirin dan cinta bagaikan teka-teki. Kau tahu, aku menolak bersujud pada manusia sebab aku tak ingin menduakan cintaku pada Tuhan! Hanya Tuhan yang berhak menerima sujudku dan siapapun tak! Adalah kemusyrikan yang terminal sekaligus permanen bagiku jika harus menduakan cinta-Nya… Tetapi cinta memang teka-teki… Ia tetap ngotot memerintahkanku bersujud kepada manusia dan aku tetap tidak mau… aku tak mau meruntuhkan pendirianku sendiri tentang cinta—apalagi kepada-Nya. Di situlah semua sistem mulai menuduhku berkhianat dan membangkang perintah Tuhan, padahal aku tak bermaksud demikian.

“Kau tahu, itu sakit, Itu tidak menyenangkan! Aku jelas marah besar. Aku murka dan meledak; menghina Tuhan dan hidup yang ia ciptakan. Aku menghina semuanya. Aku menganggap bahwa aku bisa lebih baik dari-Nya, dan Dia hanyalah Dalang yang tak becus menangani pertunjukkan. Kau tahu, itulah salahku; aku menghadapi kekerdilanku dengan cara menumbuhkan kesombongan dalam diriku… dan asal kau tahu, kesombongan bagaikan kapal minyak yang besar; sekali ia tersulut api, ia tak akan menunggu lama untuk meledak dan menghancurkan dirinya sendiri.

“Maka, mari kuberitahukan padamu, terimalah semesta kemahatiba-tibaan-Nya sebagai bagaian dari hidupmu. Jika kau memiliki hidup yang membahagiakan, bersyukurlah dengan waspada, sebab di depanmu ketiba-tibaan lain bisa saja menunggu. Jika hidupmu tak cukup baik menurut pendapatmu sendiri, cobalah menerimanya dan teruslah berjalan dengan ketabahan. Tuhan selalu punya rencana lain, kemahatiba-tibaan lain, yang bisa jadi jauh lebih baik daripada kebahagiaan-kebahagiaan yang mampu kaubayangkan sekalipun. Terimalah pertunjukannya… kau memiliki peranmu sendiri, maka mainkanlah sebaik mungkin, biarkanlah Ia yang menilaimu sendiri.

“Bila kau tak kuat menjalaninya, bisikanlah ke dalam hatimu bahwa Ia tak akan memberimu peran yang kau sendiri tak sanggup menjalaninya. Laa yukallifullahu nafsan illa wusy’aha, begitu kata-Nya kira-kira. Jangan seperti aku, melawan-Nya dan tak menerima peran yang Ia berikan untukku. Maka, beginilah aku jadinya… Aku sudah mencoba melawan-Nya, Kawan. Dan beginilah akibatnya. Sendirian, terkucil, dimusuhi secara permanen. Kau tahu bagaimana rasanya? Aku tak mampu menjalaninya. Jika aku mencari teman, aku hanya mencari teman yang berpikiran pendek sepertiku…”

Slow it down, make it stop—
Or else my heart is going to pop
'Cause it's too much
Yeah, it's a lot
To be something I'm not

I'm a fool out of love
'Cause I just can't get enough

“Jika kau menghadapi masalah-masalah dan tekanan-tekanan berat yang kau pikir tak mampu kau hadapi dan kau jalani, berjalanlah melambat. Atau sesekali berhentilah. Ketergesa-gesaan hanya datang dariku dan ketenangan datang dari bisikan nuranimu. Jangan ikuti aku yang tergesa-gesa mengambil kesimpulan menganggap Tuhan begitu jahat menduakan cinta-Nya padaku. Jangan seperti aku yang tergesa-gesa meledak kepada-Nya dan berikrar melenyapkan-Nya dari hidupku. Jangan seperti aku, sebab aku juga tak bisa menjalaninya!

“Berpikirlah tenang, rasakanlah dengan hatimu, lihatlah semuanya dengan jelas… Jika tidak, lihatlah sendiri jika kau tak melakukannya… hatimu akan meledak—seperti aku! Dan kau akan kehilangan semuanya, tak memiliki apapun. Tuhan terlalu besar untuk kau tiadakan, bahkan bukankah Ia sendiri memenuhi seluruh ruang ketiadaan? Sementara itu, hidup terlalu kompleks untuk kau remehkan.

“Tak ada satupun yang bisa memenuhi harapan kita kecuali kita sendiri… Maka, saat kau merasa sedih atau bermasalah, jangan menuduh siapapun—jangan menuduhku. Kembalikanlah pada dirimu sendiri, kau adalah tuan bagi dirimu sendiri. Itulah cara Tuhan menghidupkan pertunjukannya, ia memberimu pilihan-pilihan, kemungkinan-kemungkinan, ketiba-tibaan, dan kau di tengah-tengahnya… fahadaynakum najdayn…

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I don't know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

I am just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out
It's bringing me down I know
I've got to let it go
And just enjoy the show

The sun is hot
In the sky
Just like a giant spotlight
The people follow the signs
And synchronize in time
It's a joke
Nobody knows
They've got a ticket to that show… Yeah

“Saat menyadari kesalahanku dan melihat diriku yang penuh masalah dan dimusuhi banyak orang… kadang aku merasa takut, seperti gadis kecil yang tersesat di tengah hujan. Tetapi penyesalah memang selalu datang belakangan dan kita tak bisa mengulangi keputusan yang telah kita buat. Maka, segeralah bangun dan tersadar, berhentilah membuat keputusan-keputusan buruk dan keliru-keliru, berhentilah membuat keputusan-keputusan emosional-irasional, dan mulailah bekerja membaikkan kualitas diri. Itulah taubat. Lakukanlah selagi mungkin, sebelum semuanya terlambat. Sebab penyesalan selalu datang belakangan; hanya itu caranya menghentikan konsekuensi-konsekuensi buruk dari pilihan-pilihan buruk yang kau ambil. Sebelum semuanya terlambat seperti aku.

“Hidupmu tak ditentukan oleh keramaian, begitu kata Søren Kierkegard, salah satu sahabatku. Jangan membuat pilihan berdasarkan pilihan banyak orang, buatlah pilihan berdasarkan kata hatimu, berdasarkan akal-pikiranmu. Apa yang baik menurutmu, baik bagi hidupmu. Apa yang buruk menurut hati dan pikiranmu, buruk juga bagi hidupmu. Dan lihatlah bagaimana waktu akan membuktikan semuanya… Haha… ini termasuk nasihat untuk jangan mengikuti pendapat dan godaanku tentang sesuatu, timbanglah menurut hati dan pikiranmu sendiri…

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I dont know where to go, can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

I am just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out
It's bringing me down I know
I've got to let it go
And just enjoy the show oh oh oh

Just enjoy the show oh oh oh

“Jika kau sudah melakukan apa yang terbaik bagi hidupmu, jika kau sudah berusaha membaikkan dirimu di hadapan Tuhan, just enjoy the show! Hanya itu yang bisa kau lakukan. Wamaa tasyaa-u illa an-yasyaa-allah… Kenyataannya, di hapadan kehendak Tuhan, kehendak kita tak ada apa-apanya. Maka, nikmati saja pertunjukannya. Barangkali itulah yang disebut sebagai tawakkal. Merebahkan diri di tengah-tengah maha-sistem ketiba-tibaan dan kehendak Tuhan…

“Akhirnya, kita tak diberi kuasa untuk mengetahui apa yang bakal terjadi. Maka, jalani dan nikmati saja pertunjukannya. Jangan seperti aku, yang menyesal seumur hidup dan tak bisa melakukan apa-apa lagi. Kalau boleh dan mungkin, asal kau tahu, sesungguhnya aku ingin mengulangi semua “pertunjukan” ini dari awal. Tetapi tak mungkin. Paling tidak, aku ingin uangku kembali dan memilih duduk manis di depan maha-layar pertunjukkan Tuhan, tetapi tak mungkin… Maka, di tengah ketidakmungkinan itulah aku memilih peranku sendiri sebagai “yang jahat”, “yang hitam”, “yang dimusuhi”, “yang dibenci”, untuk menyempurnakan peranmu sebagai “yang baik”, “yang suci”, “yang disayangi Tuhan”… Dalam kondisi itu, bila dengan pengorbananku saja kau tak bisa belajar dari buruknya masa laluku, betapa bodohnya kamu. Bila kau tak bisa menjadi “sisi baik” dari kepasrahanku menjadi “sisi buruk”, betapa sia-sianya hidupmu… dan betapa sia-sianya pengorbananku…

dum de dum
dudum de dum

Just enjoy the show

dum de dum
dudum de dum

Just enjoy the show

I want my money back
I want my money back
I want my money back

Just enjoy the show

“Terkutuklah kau jika tak menghargai pengorbananku! Cintailah kecintaanku, sebab aku hanya bisa mencintai-Nya dari jauh. Bila sempat, dalam doamu, bisikanlah kepada-Nya bahwa betapa aku masih mencintai-Nya!”

Tuan Setan mengakhiri curhatnya, permainan pianonya mulai melambat, dan suaranya mulai berat. Aku segera tahu bahwa matanya mulai berkaca-kaca. “Bukankah sia-sia hidupmu jika kau tak mencintai Tuhanmu?” katanya, “Betapa ingin aku melakukannya, kau tidak?”

Aku tersentak. Ada debar hebat yang muncul dari dalam dadaku, seperti biasa setiap kali melakukan perbincangan dengannya. Aku terdiam cukup lama saat Tuan Setan terlihat akan pergi. Ia berjalan menjauh dengan langkah terhuyung, meninggalkan aku yang terpaku dalam kebodohan diriku sendiri.

Ia menoleh ke arahku, tersenyum, “Just enjoy the show!” katanya, lalu menghilang.

Aku tak ingin bangun dari tidurku, tetapi tak bisa. Kenyatan begitu kuat menarik diriku kedalam tempat tidurku. Lalu waktu menjadi rapuh dan berantakan, membukakan mataku, menghadirkan kegelisahan baru di hatiku. “Mengapa aku harus berteman dengannya?” kataku dalam hati. “Siapakah Tuan Setan sebenarnya?”

Lamat-lamat, lagu Lenka, The Show, mengalun dari ruang kerja istriku… I'm just a little bit caught in the middle / Life is a maze and love is a riddle / I dont know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried / And I don't know why/ I am just a little girl lost in the moment / I'm so scared but I don't show it / I can't figure it out / It's bringing me down I know / I've got to let it go/ And just enjoy the show, oh oh oh…

…just enjoy the show!



Suatu hari, lama setelah menonton film indie Cin(T)a, membaca novel Eat Pray Love, melakukan yoga, bicara dengan Tuhan dan shalat, membaca buku Tuhan dan Hal-hal yang Tidak Selesai dan Sejarah dalam 10 1/2 Bab, dan bertanya-tanya kenapa Tuhan ngotot menyuruh Ibrahim untuk menyembelih Ismail... tiba-tiba terlintas begini: Kayaknya Tuhan, nggak meminta untuk disembah dengan satu cara.


Saya ingat salah satu line dari film Cin(T)a: "Kenapa Tuhan menciptakan manusia berbeda-beda, kalau Dia ingin disembah dengan satu cara?" Mungkin nggak sih, kalau Tuhan sebetulnya nggak meminta itu?

Mungkin manusia punya caranya masing-masing dalam menyembah Tuhan. Ada yang nyaman dengan shalat, ada yang nyaman dengan maditasi... Dan mungkin cara-cara itu cuma tool untuk mendekatkan diri dengan Tuhan.

Rasanya hubungan dengan Tuhan adalah hubungan yang sangat pribadi. Cuma dia dan Tuhannya yang mengerti persis hubungan itu. Dan siapa sih orang lain untuk menilai apakah caranya menyembah Tuhan benar atau salah. Kayaknya yang punya hak untuk menilai itu, ya cuma Tuhan.

Dor.

Yasudah lah, lakukan aja menurut keyakinan masing-masing.

Between Opera and Pie

In any other day, Harvest Cafe should be closing soon. Yet it was Friday night, so the store wouldn't be closed for another two hours.


We sat outside, on the balcony where we could see cars and motorcycles passing along Jalan Djuanda. Michael Buble was playing on the stereo and a waiter with his brown apron took our orders.

I ordered opera cake and she took mushroom pie. Two good friends, talking and ranting and mocking. About jobs, schools, boys, girls, friends, brother... Subjects we could not be tired of. Wait, we should not be tired of.

Laughed at our selves. Laughed at other's naivety. Laughed at prides and broken expectations.

I love challenge and she demands attention. I cross every line just to know how it feels. And she longs for passion, primal as it seems.

We broke others' hearts and got our hearts broken. We cried yesterday and laughed it off on the next day. When we are young and invincible, it feels like we could live forever. So why not enjoy it, before youth runs out like the last bite of opera cake.

Temuan


Ah, nemu ini di folder yang nggak pernah diotak-atik lagi...


Lebih Jauh, Lebih Dekat

Ketika Charles Darwin mengunjungi Pulau Galapagos di tahun 1835, ia menyadari bahwa burung mockingbird di tiap-tiap pulau merupakan spesies yang berbeda. Hal ini semakin memperkuat keraguannya mengenai kemustahilan makhluk hidup untuk bermutasi. Setahun kemudian dia mencetuskannya dalam Darwin’s Finches, sebuah studi mengenai evolusi pada paruh burung.

Kisah ini mungkin menjadi inspirasi bagi Harper Lee, peraih penghargaan Pulitzer 1961, dalam menulis novel To Kill A Mockingbird. Namun Lee tidak bicara soal sains, melainkan sebuah realita hidup di mana seringkali citra dan praduga membuat orang buta akan kebenaran yang jelas-jelas digelar di depan mata.

To Kill A Mockingbird mengambil latar sebuah kota bernama Maycomb yang berada di negara bagian Alabama, Amerika Serikat. Saat itu, di tahun 1930-an, perlakuan berbeda terhadap orang kulit hitam masih sangat mencolok. Tanpa terkecuali, dalam masyarakat Maycomb yang sebagian besar merupakan golongan konservatif kulit putih.

Cerita ini dituturkan dari sudut pandang gadis berusia 6-8 tahun bernama Scout. Seperti anak seusianya, Scout suka menghabiskan harinya dengan bermain, berusaha mengikuti apa saja yang dilakukan kakak lak-lakinya. Termasuk mengintai rumah Boo Radley, seorang pria yang tidak pernah terlihat keluar rumah sejak bertahun-tahun. Namun hidup Scout berubah ketika ayahnya, Atticus Finch, pengacara terkenal di kota tersebut, secara mengejutkan maju menjadi pembela bagi Tom Robinson, seorang pekerja serabutan kulit hitam.

Robinson dituduh melakukan penyerangan seksual terhadap anak perempuan Bob Ewell. Walaupun mengalami tekanan dari komunitasnya, Finch bertahan membela Robinson. Ia mengumpulkan bukti-bukti yang secara mengejutkan mengarah pada kemungkinan Ewell-lah yang menyerang putrinya sendiri. Meskipun tahu kemungkinannya kecil, Finch berusaha membuat juri melihat kebenaran di balik warna kulit Robinson.

“Ada sebuah tempat di negara ini di mana semua manusia dilahirkan setara. Ada sebuah institusi buatan manusia di mana seorang paling miskin setara dengan Rockefeller, seorang idiot setara dengan Einstein, dan seorang apatis setara dengan semua rektor universitas. Tempat itu, Saudara sekalian, adalah pengadilan,” kata Finch pada pernyataan terakhirnya sebelum juri berunding untuk membuat keputusan. Namun demikian, cap buruk yang dialamatkan pada masyarakat kulit hitam sebegitukuatnya sehingga para juri akhirnya memberikan vonis bersalah pada Robinson.

Dengan pengamatan yang teliti dan gaya yang polos, Scout memperlihatkan paradoks dalam kehidupan masyarakat Amerika saat itu. Kaum kulit putih menganggap kaum minoritas sebagai ‘komunitas tidak berpendidikan dan berbahaya’ karena mereka tinggal di sudut kota yang kumuh, sebagian besar dari mereka bekerja sebagai pembantu, dan tidak bisa baca-tulis. Di sisi lain, ada juga kaum kulit putih dengan ciri-ciri seperti itu, bahkan berkelakuan jauh lebih buruk dibandingkan orang kulit hitam, namun tetap mendapat perlakuan lebih baik. Maka alasan seperti tingkah laku dan kemampuan baca-tulis sebenarnya hanya pembelaan akan tumbuhnya prasangka yang disebabkan oleh perbedaan warna kulit. Prasangka itu seperti suatu keyakinan yang ditanamkan secara turun-temurun sehingga rasanya tidak ada alasan untuk menolak mempercayainya.

Dalam skala berbeda, prasangka juga yang menyebabkan Radley dilarang keluar rumah oleh ayahnya. Sejak bebas dari penjara remaja, Radley hidup dalam kurungan ayahnya yang khawatir Radley akan melakukan tindak kriminal lagi apabila dibiarkan bergaul dalam masyarakat. Pada akhirnya, Radley ternyata pria baik yang sering memberikan hadiah-hadiah kejutan bagi Scout saat gadis itu kebetulan lewat di depan rumahnya. Bahkan dia juga yang menyelamatkan Scout saat gadis itu dan kakaknya diserang oleh Bob Ewell, yang merasa dipermalukan di depan umum oleh Finch.

Para ‘korban’ dalam novel ini dianalogikan Lee sebagai mockingbird. Dalam masyarakat Maycomb, menembak burung penyanyi tersebut adalah kebiasaan dan hobi. Tidak ada seorang pun yang menentang hal itu, kecuali Finch, yang dengan jelas melarang anak-anaknya membunuh mockingbird.

“Mockingbirds tidak melakukan apapun kecuali menyanyikan musik untuk kita nikmati. Mereka tidak memakan tanaman orang, tidak bersarang pada tempat penyimpanan jagung, mereka tidak melakukan apapun kecuali menyanyikan lagu sepenuh hati untuk kita. Itulah sebabnya kita tidak boleh membunuh mockingbird,” begitu kata pengasuh Scout ketika gadis itu meminta penjelasan. Scout kemudian berjanji tidak akan membunuh mockingbird, seperti halnya dia menolak menjadi rasis.

To Kill A Mockingbird adalah novel Lee satu-satunya dan diterbitkan saat ia masih berusia 34 tahun. Melalui buku ini, Lee dianugrahi Presidential Medal of Freedom pada tahun 2007 silam. To Kill A Mockingbird merupakan salah satu karya paling berpengaruh di seluruh dunia dan kini menjadi salah satu bacaan wajib bagi sekolah menengah AS.

Lima puluh tahun setelah pertama kali buku ini diterbitkan, patut disyukuri masyarakat telah mengalami kemajuan besar dalam hal perbedaan rasial. Namun, seperti kata Darwin, mockingbird memiliki spesies berbeda di masing-masing pulau. Ada banyak Robinson dan Radley dengan permasalahan sendiri-sendiri. Untuk itu, kita harus melihat lebih jauh melewati prasangka, untuk bisa melihat lebih dekat orang di depan kita. Jangan sampai membunuh mockingbird, Finch bilang itu dosa.

demineralized water for coffee


People, please... Just because H2O is the chemical structure of water, doesn't mean H2O is the actual water we drink everyday. Perhaps they want to look smart by putting word H2O instead of hot water, but it only proved their sotoyness.

What? They wanted to say that I have to buy demineralized water to make this coffee?

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morning soup for soul

I once truly believed that one should not make other as the center of one's life. That one should not make other as one's reason to do everything. That one should not make other as one's final achievement.

Because things change. People change.

What if you're trying to succeed just to impress this girl, then you soon find her cheating on you? Doesn't all the achievement mean nothing now that you don't have any reason to keep going? What if you depend completely on your partner and then one day he's gone? Doesn't the world feel like it's ending? That you are entirely completely hopelessly alone now that you're losing your once solid ground?

Then this conversation occured.

When I told this guy about those, he said: What about soul mate then? If I love someone so dearly and she cheated on me, there must be something wrong about my judgement. If I love someone so dearly and she's gone, then I will be broken. But that's not going to stop me from giving her all I can, because she'll be my everything.

What he said to me had shaken up my whole point of view about my relationship with other people, though. I was never an all-out girl. There's something in the back of my mind that stops me from giving it all. I think the word is pride. I can hear J.Lo singing 'all my pride is all I have...' already. But probably it's just fear.

Strange thing about love is the more you give the happier you are. Love is something you feel inside, the ones you love can only feel love that is radiating from you. So if you want love, start loving. Love this morning, love your family, love your friends. Love them completely. Their love for you is their feelings. But the feeling when you're fallling in love, when you're hugging a friend, when you're watching TV with your family is truly yours. Love never hurts as no one really dies of a broken heart.

He must be shaking his head if he read this, thinking: hey, that's not my idea of love at all! Well, I kind of processing people's thoughts and ideas and sometimes come up with agreement or denial or whole different meaning.

I still believe that one should not make other as the center of one's life. That one should not make other as one's reason to do everything. That one should not make other as one's final achievement.

Because I think there's more to live.

What about soul mate, you say? Err... I don't know. Yes, some say you're not quite your whole self before you find your other half. But there are many, men and women, who'd rather spend their life without a spouse or even partner. And they're calm and happy. You still think they can not fly without the other wing? Because I know lots of people who fly on their own. Like mother Theresa. Or Isa (Jesus). Or my Aunt.

Indah said: It's not fair that you can only be yourself within the precence of someone else. Soul mate is what comes from inside you. Your personal achievement. Like Darwin and his theories. Like Newton and his apple.

(You see? I'm surrounded by great people and great books. And now as I'm writing down in my laptop, eating Happy Toss and sipping cappuccino, I can see great morning outside my window. Right here, right now, life is a bliss.)

Anyway, the problem about the word soulmate is that everyone seems to have their own definitions, and everyone claims that theirs are the right ones.

Lately I've been carrying novel Eat Pray Love like a devoted nun treats the bible. And here's its (or rather, Richard from Texas') definition of soulmate:

People think soulmate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important people you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with one? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it.

My mom said that when he married my dad, she wasn't sure that she loves him (despite their 5 years in relationship). She just went with the flow and when it's time they should be married, they just did. And one thing that crossed my mind when she told me this was: 'Emak gue nggak romantis.'

But hey, would it be matter? They're still going strong until now. They still do all the lovey dovey things. They still respect each other. They still complain and grumble about each other, of course, but very rarely be mad. My dad adores my mom, and she is devoted to him. And I bet if I ask her is he her soul mate she would go with: I don't know, what is soul mate anyway?

Perhaps soul mate is just something people make up to assure themselves that they will not have to spend a lifetime being alone.

Perhaps, like a faint voice that is always bugging me for quite some time now, soulmate is the presence of God within you?

senyum senyum sendiri

Waktu lagi sedih, rasanya sulit buat nemuin hal-hal yang bisa bikin kita tersenyum. Tapi coba ya, waktu pikiran dan hati lagi tenang, ada luar biasa banyak hal yang bisa disyukuri dari hari ini. :)


Saya bersyukur untuk buku Eat Pray Love, dua gelas cappuccino malam ini, semua artis yang telah menyanyikan lagu-lagu di playlist saya, Canada's Next Top Model, internet, Ibu yang paling saya sayang di dunia, Ayah dan kedua adik saya, treadmill, rumah, mobil, laptop, hujan, kesehatan, kehidupan, pengelihatan, malam, siang, pendengaran, onion ring, terigu... *makin lama makin absurd*

Saat-saat yang paling saya suka adalah saat saya merasa bahagia tanpa alasan (hope it ain't sign of insanity). Contentment. Saat saya tiba-tiba bisa merasa grateful atas simple things dan membuat saya senyum-senyum terus tanpa alasan (again, I hope it ain't sign of insanity).

Anyway, sejauh ini, ada dua paragraf dalam Eat Pray Love yang paling menarik jari saya untuk mengutip. Nggak jelas juga kenapa. Padahal membaca buku ini nggak membuat saya kepingin melakukan crazie escapade ke Itali.

Luigi Barzini, in his 1964 masterwork The Italians (written when he'd finally grown tired of foreigners writing about Italy and either loving it or hating it too much), tried to set the record straight on his own culture. He tried to answer the question of why the Italians have produced the greatest artistic, political and scientific minds of the ages, but have still never become a major world power. Why are they the planet's masters of verbal diplomacy, but still so inept at home government? Why they so individually valiant, yet so collectively unsuccessful as an army? How can they be such shrewd merchants on the personal level, yet such inefficient capitalist as a nation?

His answers to these questions are more complex than I can fairly encapsulate here, but have much to do with a sad Italian history of corruption by local leaders and exploitation by foreign dominators, all of which has generally led Italians to draw the seemingly accurate conclusion that nobody and nothing in this world can be trusted. Because the world is so corrupted, misspoken, unstable, exaggerated and unfair, one should trust only what one can experience with one's own senses, and this makes the senses stronger in Italy than anywhere in Europe. This is why, Barzini says, Italians will tolerate hideously incompetent generals, presidents, tyrants, professors, bureaucrats, journalists and captains of industry, but will never tolerate incompetent "opera singers, conductors, ballerinas, courtesans, actors, film directors, cooks, tailors..." In a world of disorder and disaster and fraud, sometimes only beauty can be trusted. Only artistic excellence is incorruptible. Pleasure cannot be bargained down. And sometimes the meal is the only currency that is real.

lingering



They say if you want to see the rainbow, you'll have to bear with the rain. But this particular rainbow just appeared in the sky, once upon an Idul Adha (if I remember correctly), along with no rain.

It's a full circle around the sun. But it seems like diameter of the rainbow itself was too big for my little pocket camera to capture whole of it.




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saya suka hari ini :)

Saya sedang baca Eat, Pray, Love oleh Elizabeth Gilbert dan The Girl Who Kicked The Hornets' Nest oleh Stieg Larsson. Dua buku yang super sangat bertolak belakang. Dan sejauh ini.. super sangat suka dua-duanya. :D


Akhirnya KP selesai dan bawaannya senang melulu. Hahaha.. Morning playlist hari ini:

Extraordinary - Mandy Moore
Put Your Records On - Corrine Bailey Rae
Moon River - Audrey Hepburn
True Colors - Cindy Lauper
Sunshine - Gabrielle
Ordinary Miracle - Sarah McLachlan
A Love That Will Last - Renee Olstead
Fireflies - Owl City
Fools Like Me - Lisa Loeb
Happy - Leona Lewis
Let's Start From Here - Joanna Wang
Mind Trick - Jamie Cullum


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Last Week In Bogor



Last Friday I went to Bogor for high school Bukber. Quite a lot of people came. It's actually nice to meet up with long-time-no-see friends. Although sometimes it's kind of awkward trying to mingle with those I haven't had a single contact with for the last four years. That and meeting up with the ex es.

Buuuut.., the best part was the main-kembang-api-malem-malem-di-lapangan-Sempur. God, I love fireworks!





Most of the photographs with fireworks in it were unfocused. Gio said it was probably because of the shutter speed or whatever.







Don't worry Cinderella, Fairy God Mother here. Along with her sparkling magic wound. (Taken by camera-phone, it's blurry.)




after How I Met Your Mother

Life is like scrapbook making. Once we finish with one picture, we'll move to another. You jump into the moment, you screw things up. Like having a very bad picture of yourself-drooling-on-the-bus taken. But eventually, you'll pick up the mess you made and fix it. Days are gonna be bright again. Love's gonna find you again. And you just know, right in the moment, that no matter what, you're gonna be okay.


Life is not about making the right decision. Sometimes, life means you just have to listen to your heart and do it. Go ahead and make mistakes. Even if you need to cry, just to feel. Do something stupid. Make your life worth living. Live your dreams. Be happy. You deserve it.

Things need time to fall into place. You met someone and fell in love. You thought she/he was the one, but turned out things didn't go as it's planned. Then you met someone else and thought you share a lot of traits and find comfort in what you're doing together. Only to find she/he was not the one, either. Over and over, you fly and fall and rise again.

Sometimes you have to go alone. Cutting off all contacts. Then when you meet that someone again, turns out you can already make jokes about your previous little affair. You can talk and be friends, just like the way you should've been.

We're all like a tennis ball. The harder we fall, the higher we soar.

Maybe these dramas were meant to happen just to be learned. Because you need to sort things out, make priorities, before you're ready to settle down. Your feelings might get mixed up between love and lust and simple affection. We hug each other. We cry in each other's arms. Just because we're friends. Don't force yourself to do what you don't want to do. Don't push your heart into feeling what it doesn't feel.

All would be beautiful just in the right time. We forgive. We forget. We go on with our lives. And before we know it, we're already adults. Ready for new episode.

the unknown said..

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by.


So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt.

Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. You just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts.

Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.

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tentang marmut

Gue baru baca buku terakhirnya Raditya Dika, Marmut Merah Jambu. Gue masih nggak ngerti apa hubungannya marmut sama buku ini. Mungkin karena isi bukunya kali ini kebanyakan tentang cinta, jadi suasananya merah jambu. Nggak ngerti deh.

Eniwei, gue nggak pernah terlalu suka sama Raditya Dika ini. Awalnya gue baca 'Kambing Jantan' dan memang sukses membuat gue ketawa sendiri malam-malam. Tapi kemudian buku dengan konsep yang sama bermunculan dan si Raditya Dika ini kayaknya nggak maju-maju dengan novel-novelnya. Dan gue juga nggak suka dengan dia yang suka ngatain orang alay (masih nggak sih?).

Waktu gue ke toko buku terakhir kali, gue liat si Marmut Merah Jambu ini. Iseng, gue baca depannya. Niatnya to get a little laugh sambil nunggu adek gue beli cartridge buat printer. Tapi ternyata bukunya beda dengan yang sebelum-sebelumnya. Dan untuk pertama kalinya gue menilai tulisan dia bagus. Seperti, kali ini dia memang punya suatu ide untuk disampaikan.

Mungkin cinta memang bahasa yang paling universal, bahkan untuk orang yang terkenal dengan lifestory-nya yang aneh dan absurd. Di salah satu bagian buku ini dia cerita tentang pertemuan dengan soulmate. Bagaimana alam semesta bisa berkonspirasi supaya dua orang bisa ketemu.

Lucu. Nyokap gue juga pernah bilang begitu. She said: 'If one day you find somebody you love and loves you back, hold it dear. Because there are three billion people in this world and to find one that fits you like two pieces of puzzle... Isn't it miraculous?'

It is, indeed.

like a sitcom

Ada dua hal yang paling nggak saya suka di dunia selain perang: konfrontasi dan perpisahan. Saya nggak suka harus menangis atau marah atau sedih. I have this strange idea of living a life like a sitcom. Maksudnya, hidup yang sederhana, penuh ketawa, ceria, kalau ada masalah pun bisa diselesaikan dalam setengah jam slot waktu tayangnya.

Bisa kan ya hidup begitu ya? *ngarep*

phone calls

You bent your body on your bed. Like a child, you held your knees and closed your eyes. You're praying for this silence to break, for this pain on your chest to disappear. You still had your BlackBerry in your palm. You opened your eyes, lifted your hand in front of your head, and stared at that smartphone for a whole five minutes. Hesitated.

You finally lowered your hand, closed your eyes again and let the phone slipped from your hand and onto the bed.

City lights of Melbourne westward looked intensively amazing through your apartment window. It's like the city had been wrapped by a golden chain. You could even see the sparkling diamonds of West Gate Bridge near the horizon. If only you were willing to take a couple steps toward your window, opened it, and let the night wind of Melbourne softly caress your face, you'd hear me whisper: "Why don't you pick up your phone?"

You stayed put. Wished the warmth of your bed would calm the coldness of your surrounding. It didn't take long, you tossed and turned. As if trying to figure out the best position of sleeping. But loneliness for you, never been the greatest lullaby. Your hands searching for a phone underneath the blanket that was hugging your body from toe to shoulder. But as your fingers touched the phone screen, again, you hesitated. I was watching and praying. That this time you would pick up your phone.

You don't have to be alone, I would want to say. Because we could make it work, if only you give it a chance. But your ears always turned deaf every time I said those. It's like you already closed the door that's not even half opened.

You still wouldn't pick up your phone.

This time you sat up and sighed heavily. You're just sick and tired of this situation. All this silence and loneliness that ate you alive, piece by piece. You would want to say it's enough. You wanted to scream and cry even only for two minutes. You needed warm body to hold you close. Feeling the other's life energy seeping through your skin. To remind you that you, too, a human being. And I guessed my voice was never enough.

They said when you focused on one thing, the rest became unseen. It happened to you. Cause you saw only possibilities. You stopped believing in faith and blame it to fate. You didn't want to be hurt, you said. Stop it. Before it's too late and irreversible. But still you're alone, felt utterly small beneath the big sky of Victoria.

Finally you put your blanket aside, rather roughly. It's enough, you decided. You got up from your bed and headed to a desk beside the closet, almost like running. You grabbed your car key and rushed for the front door. Not even bothered to put on a jacket. It's a mid January night; the weather was still warm even when it's almost ten at the evening.

Suddenly you stopped, remembered something had been forgotten. You walked back toward your bedroom and saw white-cased BlackBerry on your bed, half covered by a pillow. You grabbed it and, again, stared at it. You always hated chickens, now you're cursing yourself for becoming one of them. You pressed the bottom and searched for a name on your phonebook. But instead of dialing, you canceled and put the phone back onto your pocket.

You had decided something and you would not change your mind. You never did. Even when it came back crushing you. What's done, done. And I hated, as well as I loved, you for that.

You walked out of your room and headed to the front door of your small, one bedroom apartment. You opened the door and stepped outside. Then you closed and locked the door behind you. Never once looking back.

While I could only stared at the silhouette of your back... slowly faded as one door closed.

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